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How not to Cope with Anxiety
By Roger A. Johnson, C.Ht., Ph.D., B.C.E.T.S.

I met a lady not long ago in a doctor’s office. As I heard her berate the doctor’s staff and shout demands. I thought, “What a witch!”           
Some weeks later I happened to meet the same lady again. I didn’t recognize her at first. She was entirely pleasant. We had a nice conversation. As she asked me about hypnotherapy as a treatment modality for anxiety and I realised I had seen her before.

As our conversation continued, I discovered she had suffered from anxiety for many years. She had accepted her anxiety disorder as a part of her life that she simply had to cope with. Somewhere along the way, she had found something that worked for her. She found that if she became very angry, she was then less aware of her anxiety. The first time I had seen her she was obviously in the process of using her coping strategy!

Unfortunately, while this strategy lets her manage her anxiety it had almost destroyed her social life and certainly limited or eliminated any possibility of developing friendships or friendly relationships with people. What a terrible price to pay! From our talk I discovered she had no friends or even acquaintances that she could depend on, even for a ride in an emergency. Her only friends seemed to be her anxiety and anger. There are better ways to deal with anxiety.

Over the years, in my clinic, I have found people with many different methods of coping with their anxiety. As they use these strategies, their behavior becomes part of their overall self image. The lady I told you about has BECOME an angry, nasty person. She has lost much of what makes life most meaningful and satisfying. This lady like many others has hidden her anxiety disorder and accepted a life that is a daily hell. It doesn’t have to be like that. Life is too precious to waste it filled with misery and fear.         

Imagine waking up  each day and the first thing you do is to turn your attention inward to discover if your old demon is still there to continually torment you. The fear of an impending emotional attack, of losing control, or possibly being humiliated in public being there almost every minute.
       
An anxiety attack expereince can be terrifying but the fear of an attack becomes the sufferer’s           constant companion and it is like living with an inner devil.           You can’t run away. You become intensely aware that IT could happen at any minute wherever you might be. Over time, the person with anxiety develops even more particular fears. These fears can take many forms. It could be the fear of driving over a particular bridge, or a particular freeway, or freeway overpass. It could be a fear of elevators or rooms  without windows, maybe the checkout line at the supermarket, or the mall or a certain place in the mall. These fears all come from the thought process that goes something like this: “ What if “IT” happened while I was on the bridge and there was no place to pull over? What if “IT” happened while I was in line at the grocery store and I had to leave my cart and run away and everyone thought I was crazy?”         

These anxiety attack fears can actually create the thing feared. A fear is a negative expectation. We can easily create the thing we fear. As experience teaches the anxiety  victim that “IT” really can happen in those feared places, they began avoiding them. This can lead to agoraphobia, which can progress to the point that the sufferer is afraid to leave his home. They often end up on disability as a virtual prisoner in their own home, alone with the 'demon' within them.     

I have been referring to an anxiety attack as “IT.” Just what is the “IT” that these people fear so much? Imagine you are standing on the edge of a high cliff looking at a beautiful view. You suddenly lose your balance and realize, as you start leaning, that you are going to fall over the edge and there is nothing you can do to save yourself. That is very much like what the typical anxiety sufferer feels - but for no apparent reason. They can have disorientation, dizziness, suddenly sweaty palms, a racing heartbeat, or a strange feeling of being removed from normal reality. Some feel as if they are being jerked out of their bodies and going crazy. “IT” is a feeling of being totally helpless and having an array of very unpleasant physical symptoms at the same time. Many wonder if they are having a heart attack or some other life-threatening condition. They feel as if they are going to die, and the fear grows.         

Typically, they end up in an emergency room and are told there is nothing wrong with  them. This reinforces the fear that they're going crazy. The patients know something was certainly wrong. Many begin a long, seemingly endless journey from doctor to doctor getting every test in the book and finding nothing. Many have gone through dozens of different drugs as each doctor tries something different. The anxiety is still there lurking. Many of the drugs help for a while, but often they have side effects that, in and of themselves, make daily life unpleasant. Drugs can be helpful and are sometimes necessary, but they do not solve the problem.         

Perhaps the most important thing we can do about anxiety disorders is to educate those who have them, as well as the medical community in general. There are many more people suffering with anxiety than most people realize. Many  of those suffering hide their problems. Part of the fear is that they may be going mad. They often fear what their friends  would think of them. So they hide. They quit being social. They often withdraw from social life. Many reading this either know someone with an anxiety disorder or are a sufferer yourself. It could be post traumatic stress, panic attacks, agoraphobia or even irritable bowel syndrome. There are many physical responses to stress and anxiety. They are all treatable. Behavioral therapy and hypnotherapy with a qualified therapist can desensitize the anxiety and end the fear. These people can leave their  “demons” behind and live a normal life again. It takes work and a little time, but most anxiety victims take control of their lives completely with a little help.
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